Boost Your Confidence

Boost Your Confidence

Self confidence stems from the belief that we are valued for who we are.  It does not depend on the good opinion of others and we can build it ourselves.  Confidence is not fixed, it can desert us just when we seem to have everything going for us, and it can drive us when we’ve nothing left to lose.  If we’re lucky, our parents will have helped to lay a foundation for confidence, but building and sustaining it is a lifelong project.

If you didn’t learn an optimistic attitude from your parents, you can develop it.  It’s helpful to have goals and purpose in your life, and to set yourself challenges.  No one, however successful, has not had to call on his or her courage and take a personal risk.  A commitment to doing something positive for ourselves is the key to creating confidence.

Build self-belief  -  We are likely to internalise negative messages we have received, while dismissing the positive.  We need to practise building up the positive.  A journal is a useful tool in this process you will find it valuable to re-read your notes.

Stop waiting for external validation, which after all, happens rarely, as most people are preoccupied mainly with themselves.  Start loving and accepting yourself as you are now.  In this way, what you believe other people think about you becomes less relevant and what you believe about yourself takes precedence.  What matters is the ability to develop affirming beliefs about yourself, realising this is the first step to improving your confidence.

Write down in your journal all the things that you value about yourself for example:

The qualities I most care about in myself are...

The attributes that make me feel good about myself are....

People have often said that I am good at...

If I were to choose my top five favourite things about me, they would be...

I might not be perfect, but I am proud of myself because...

Include any qualities, feelings activities or relationships that matter to you, for these are integral to your self-worth,  if your mind wanders to the negative, remind yourself that this exercise is not about listing your faults, but defining your qualities otherwise known in positive psychology as signature strengths.

Using Hypnosis combined with other techniques improves thought processing building confidence in a fast and effective way helping to create changes in your general attitude towards yourself and your current life situation.