It’s this time of year where our kids are going off to College or University. A major milestone in their life’s has been reached.
We all understand major landmarks in family life: the birth of a child, starting school, going off for play dates, school trips, starting high school, leaving home and living independently.
Whilst these are new and exciting times, for parents they carry a fair amount of anxiety, as much as our hopes and dreams have focused on our kids becoming independent as a time of transition to adult life, hopefully one that is successful and fulfilling, some parents endure symptoms of empty nest syndrome. Psychology Today defines it as, “feelings of depression, sadness and/or grief experienced by parents and caregivers after children come of age and leave their childhood homes.” In addition, parents with ‘boomerang kids’ — adult children between 25 and 34 years of age who are still living at home to save money or get back on their feet after a personal crisis — often experience the same symptoms.
Symptoms of Empty Nest Syndrome
Lose interest in cooking and daily activities as there is no family to cater for anymore
Watching out for the signs of depression may be the most important thing when dealing with an empty nest. Depression can take its toll on your well-being and leave you stuck in a negative cycle. Seeking help early and even considering alternative therapy such as hypnotherapy using Hypnosis combined with our other techniques improves thought processing in a fast and effective way helping to create changes in your general attitude towards yourself and your current life situation
Benefits for Empty Nesters
While many parents can get hung up on the negative side of ‘losing’ their child and now living in an empty home, there are some benefits of this type of change in the household. Consider how having fewer people at home could reduce family conflicts. Married couples will have more quality time together and may be able to try new hobbies, spend more time with friends, or even travel. The pressure of having to take care of children — even adult children — is alleviated and parents can focus more on themselves.
For many parents, parenting is part of their identity so saying goodbye to a child affects the parent at a much deeper level. Try and stay positive and focus on the new activities you can enjoy now that you have more time to be on your own. You can still make an effort to stay in touch with your children with regular visits, phone calls, and even video calls so it feels like they are still at home. Just recognizing that Empty Nest Syndrome is a very real thing can make it easier to cope and accept that this is just another chapter of your life.